Prejudice and Negativity

Some people just can't get past prejudices and personal grudges. Even if you don't like a person, if what s/he said is a fact, it's still a fact. It didn't just magically became a lie or an insult just because you don't like her/him. Or because s/he is of a different ideology than you. Or because s/he's thinks differently than you.

Well, I can't get past these too sometimes. It's kind hard to do sometimes, isn't it? Sometimes when you already have a negative mindset about something, everything related to it just becomes negative. Though sometimes, at least what I believe, there are lessons to be learned from anything. There are always more than one way to look at everything. That everything have it's good and bad side. For these lessons and good things to be lost just because of prejudice (and pride sometimes), is a little sad, perhaps.

On a related note, there is perhaps a relation between this negativity and assumptions. Some people just sometimes makes assumptions based on prejudiced feelings rather than facts. Imagining slights and insults where there's none. One stupid example was parodied in 'Harold and Kumar' where Kumar (The Indian Guy) is suspected as a terrorist just because he looks like an 'Arab'.

While the example above might be a little over the top, it sometimes happen in our daily lives. Parents who accused their 'naughty' children of being disobedient when they don't do their chores. When they really never told the child to do so. 'But they should know what that they're supposed to do it' one might say. Well, think again. Not everyone thinks the same way.

Others might take offense based on what someone said, saying that a person insulted him when the other guy actually meant it another way. Then started a brawl because of something that's actually a misunderstanding.

Husbands and wives, or maybe good friends, sometimes get into arguments just because of something really trivial. Something like an imagined slight, that comes in the wrong moment of negativity. Yet something simple can become a very large matter if viewed in a negative standpoint. Even worse if even when it's cleared, one still tries to find holes, just to justify their (illogical, perhaps) outburst.

As a possibility, perhaps this blog post will offend someone, thought that it pokes fun at their self/ethnic/country whatever. Well, it's not. it's just a personal rant from someone unimportant in the blogosphere. Just wanted to rant a bit, so you (and me too) can perhaps set aside prejudices and negative feelings aside for a moment and look at problems without subjective opinions.

Usually then, the solution can be found easily.

What Major Arcana Card Am I?

You Scored as XIII: Death Death is probably the most well known Tarot card - and also the most misunderstood. Most Tarot novices would consider Death to be a bad card, especially given its connection with the number thirteen. In fact this card rarely indicates literal death.Without "death" there can be no change, only eventual stagnation. The "death" of the child allows for the "birth" of the adult. This change is not always easy. The appearance of Death in a Tarot reading can indicate pain and short term loss, however it also represents hope for a new future.

Done this in spare time. But.. Death? I don't really like change, though I know they're necessary. Why Death, I wonder?

50 random things about me

Tagged by Ipeh :P

Zakuruchi...

1.) is a guy
2.) is 24 years old, and wishing to stay that way
3.) sometimes wished for time to just stand still
4.) missed this number the first time around
5.) is a good troubleshooter
6.) likes status quo, sometimes
7.) procrastinates all the time
8.) often tries to do too much at the same time
9.) writes stories, mostly fantasy
10.) is trying to bring back his writing mood from the closet
11.) cherishes those few close friends he have
12.) yet tends to hurt those closest to him
13.) loves his time in college. A lot
14.) is a die-hard Super Robot Wars fans
15.) often wastes his time on something unproductive
16.) is not too good around people
17.) missed Bandung a lot
18.) loves to play Magic the Gathering, especially Limited formats
19.) is very impulsive
20.) is sometimes confused about people
21.) tries to be a passive observer in most things
22.) hates being alone
23.) hates people that think they're always right
24.) hates self-centered people
25.) rarely got angry except to those closest to him.
26.) thinks that Socialism is sometimes better than Capitalism
27.) tries to keep in control
28.) may hurt people with verbal barbs unwittingly
29.) is single
30.) and have someone on sight
31.) likes his current job
32.) but wants to work in jakarta/bandung
33.) misses his friends a lot
34.) misses my half-sister
35.) really care about his half-sister, regardless of what she thinks
36.) misses his real sister too
37.) is an avid Dungeons and Dragons player
38.) sometimes get carried away when playing DnD
39.) is a Chaotic Neutral Elf Ranger/Bard
40.) cares about what other people think, despite outward appearances
41.) loves his family
42.) is annoyed about taxes and fees just to keep something you already own
43.) is worried about the future
44.) likes to eat good food
45.) is an erratic spender
46.) likes to listen to people
47.) is lazy
48.) wants to have more money
49.) is an underachiever
50.) is annoyed that nowadays appearance matters more than substance

fifty seems not enough.

EDITED : I found out I missed two numbers. Careless, am I?